VOID

Void is the state of being without something (lack, emptiness or absence). So let me make this clear before we get into this: am going to talk about voids in our lives, so if you have started thinking about void house or maybe void in space, please twist that and start thinking about that void you have in your life.

Have you ever felt empty on the inside? Do you recall those moments when you felt like something is missing, everything is meaningless; just you against the world, incomplete, unwanted and want to escape reality. This is the moment when most of us end up doing crazy things like drugs, sex, over eating and those we later regret.

Just yesterday you got fired at work because of your recklessness and so you decide that having sex or taking alcohol is the best way to make you feel good. Well yeah, it feels good at the moment but when you are done with it (sex, alcohol), the pain will restore itself and which means, what you thought as the best way to fill the void was USELESS.

Voids in our lives can be caused by different events like death of our loved ones, rejection, unemployment, family drama and even seeking for perfection. So first, you have to know why are you feeling that way? And what can you do to fill that void that you have in your life. If you think shouting might help, then do it or maybe getting out of social media is the best way to fill the void then take your time and DO YOU.

So, WHICH IS THE BEST WAY TO FILL THE VOID? Feel it and embrace it. Feel the void that you carry in your heart and talk about it. The problem with most of us is that we do not want to admit that we have problems because “THEY” might laugh, mock at us and even take advantage of our weakness. Now “THEY” is the reason why we cannot move forward, is the reason why we keep struggling at the same spot without making any move.

For the past few months I was struggling with a void in my life and at first, it was hard to talk about it to people because of the way they will perceive it. When I realised that it wasn’t doing me any good by keeping it to myself and since I was distracted by it, I had to embrace and let it out by talking to few close friends. Maybe you don’t like talking about your problems to people, which is okay! But it’s healthy to have a person who you can talk to.

“I think y’all have to know that, we may have personal things that going on in our lives that other people may not know about. So let’s try being understanding of one another”

The last thing you have to know is that, “YOU ARE IN THIS ALONE”. You cannot use someone else to fill the void that you have, only you can heal yourself and close the voids. “Keep in mind that many others are dealing with that too, but trying to make them be quiet”. "WE BECOME AWARE OF THE VOID AS WE FILL IT".

                                                                                                Jajaapsycho.