UNRESOLVED FEELINGS

Unresolved feelings are vague feelings of pain and grief, resentment and fear. Unresolved feelings can simply mean holding on to good or bad feelings {a situation that lacks a resolution}.  Most of us are emotionally attached to a negative past that we have had, whether we have unresolved feelings about our parents, past partner, our childhood or old friendships. These unresolved feelings can  appear anytime, in response to an outside situation or to your own thoughts and they lead to significant distress or unhealthy behaviors if left unresolved for too long.

“One thing you can’t hide is when you’re crippled inside”- John Lennon.

Most of us do not function well in our relationships, be it with family, friends or with our partners and it is because of what we have been holding and trying to avoid, and what happens next is that they get to trickle over into other parts of our lives.

This emotional baggage has the potential to affect the way people function and behave in relationships {any relationship}. Let’s take an example, a person who has problems connecting with his or her children and find it as a normal thing BUT if she or he digs deep with the help of a professional counselor or psychologist will figure out that it’s either because of unfinished business he or she has with one of the parents and that’s why those unresolved feelings keep haunting that person making him or her to act a certain way towards the children which is not appropriate.

“If you don’t deal with your unfinished business they will haunt you”

We do not understand that the root cause of many relationship conflicts is unresolved issues from the past and the fact that we do not want to unpack these emotional baggage we keep destroying whatsoever we involve ourselves into and hurt those people we are in relationships with. I get that most of us have unresolved feelings because we do not have the answers and we can unpack these emotional baggage by seeking answers from those who are involved in our unresolved emotional issues. Until these feelings are resolved it won’t be completely possible to move on!

It’s okay to have unresolved feelings but what’s not okay is when you do not want to unpack them. There are many ways to work out through your unresolved feelings such as, involving others in your healing, by setting healthy boundaries with people who are involved with your unresolved emotional issues and it may be necessary to work with a professional counselor or psychologist to help you figure out the best way to work through your emotions. “DEAL WITH THE ISSUES DIRECTLY”.

                                                                                                             Jajapsycho.