ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

An attitude of gratitude means making it a habit to express thankfulness and appreciation in all parts of your life, on a regular basis, for both the big and small things alike. I don’t know how to put this but it’s a ‘STRUGGLE” to most of us (I just want to be real by not excluding myself).

To be honest, it even reaches a time I be like, “serious God?”. Because on my side I know I don’t deserve to pass through this kind of shit (nobody deserves) but we don’t question, we end up blaming and that’s the main problem. If we were able to see things differently, I believe we would have been grateful for the rest of our lives.

I love this quote by Melody Beattie, “gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity… it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow”.

I am super good at complaining (I do this indirectly, sometimes directly and its actually not something to be proud of). I mostly love doing it indirectly like, talking to myself in the sense of questioning in a complaining way (super complicated) but its dope!. So like, I tend to complain to God and sometimes I even force him to do things in my way, like I even dare to tell him that “I can manage”, just do it! Well, I used to be like this when I never wanted or was afraid of facing the truth. So, there is this one time I frequently complained about something that I obviously knew wasn’t real but I never cared cause “I WANTED IT” and so, I forced God to make it happen. My God never fails me, he did it and that’s when I came to realize “WHY”. I am not ashamed to say this but, this was the most painful yet liberating paradigm shift ever! it transformed all my relationships, my circumstances and I was grateful because that’s when everything became clear to me. I learnt to be grateful since that day regardless of how the situation is. I know its hard sometimes but there is always a reason why you are going through that particular thing and the best way to overcome it, is by “being grateful”.

“The only way to stop the blaming-complaining cycle is to start being truly positive. No matter how bad your day is, always find something to be grateful for everyday. And expect only the best from people”.

This has helped me a lot because; I take time daily to reflect on how much I have. It may not be all that I want but I know someone somewhere is dreaming to have what I have (life is always a circle), and that’s why we are supposed to be grateful in every circumstance.

I hope that we all change on how we look at things and even people (don’t misunderstand a person for his actions), like so far those who are close to me are the ones who it was hard to get along with due to their actions. I am this kind of a person that always want to get the “WHY ANSWERS”, like why is she acting that way?. This has helped me a lot since,  I now do not struggle in understanding people, and I love the fact that, I am not a hater cause if I hate, I do it badly and that’s not what God wants, me to do.

Let me wrap this up by saying, “when life gets hectic and you feel overwhelmed, take a moment to focus on the people and things you are most grateful for (like I am forever grateful for my mother, that woman is a rare being!). When you have an attitude of gratitude, frustrating troubles will fall by the wayside”.

                                                                                                                Jajapsycho.